Sexual assault has been an epidemic in New Zealand high schools for years. Maybe now adults are listening

나는 was at Christchurch girls’ high in the 90s. I still remember arriving in chemistry class at the start of a new year, and news getting round about a summer rape. No one would probe, but everyone knew, and there was a silent acknowledgement amongst my peers that it could have been any of us.

In the years since, it seems like little has changed. It was unsurprising when a survey released this week 녹이다 20 young women at the school alleging they had been raped, and more than half saying they had been sexually harassed, many multiple times. For almost all of them, these violations happen before they turn 17.

It’s not a problem that is specific to this high school. The reality is that too many of us have our own girlhood stories of being groped, objectified, or worse. It’s not really news. The real news here is that one school seems to be finally doing something about it.

Since leaving Christchurch girls high, I’ve spent 25 years working with young people in sexuality education, youth mental health and community work. I have heard countless stories from young women about their treatment by men – from childhood internet grooming to being recruited for underage sex work. As if young women didn’t have enough to contend with, they must also deal with constant unsolicited attention from boys and men who seem to think we are asking for it.

Last week driving through winter Christchurch streets, I saw the familiar girls’ high uniform, but the kilt was tossed like a great woollen carcass across this girl’s back. She had traded the hulking, impractical tartan for a functional pair of trousers to bike home in. It struck me how we are given these markers of gender from such a young age, how the ways we dress reflect the expectations and demands of the world around us. For girls these markers often restrict our movement, requiring us to be “pretty” but modest. I remember arriving at school assembly to be told how “ladies” should sit: legs crossed, directed off centre, as if offending vaginas could shoot lasers.

But for all of the instruction to be ladylike and wear our uniforms just so, it hasn’t stopped the epidemic of sexual violence.

A self defence instructor once taught me punches and kicks. But at the end of the lesson, I remember hearing the resignation in their voice: “Sometimes, it’s not worth fighting back”. The implication was blindingly obvious: better to be raped than murdered. 이번 주, students have been saying the sex education curriculum is outmoded. It all sounds dreadfully familiar.

But maybe what is changing now is how fed up we are, how the trauma and indignity is not worth keeping silent about any longer. And maybe some adults are ready to listen.

To my knowledge, until now no school in 뉴질랜드 has sponsored research and made their findings public as to the level of sexual violence to which their girls have been subject.

Earlier this year, these same young women started taking to the streets to reclaim their space and visibility in the face of the abuse they suffer. It seems like for once, rather than an institution sweeping potentially damaging allegations under the rug, the board and principal at my old high school had the guts to listen. They’ve commissioned robust research to stimulate genuine debate and change. Change not only for these young women, but also to model an institutional response to a harassment epidemic.

This is the appropriate response from adults who live in a society where sexual misconduct is still normalised and tolerated. This is bigger than one cohort of young women – it is about systemic change that needs to happen in our homes, 학교, workplaces, sports fields, justice system and government. We need a full reform of sex education for all genders, that takes the idea of “safe sex” beyond condoms. We need to teach our teenagers about consent and the nature of harassment. We need to do far, far more to protect our rainbow communities, and allow LGBTQI+ students safe places to learn, grow and thrive. And for when the worst happens, we need more funding for stretched sexual abuse and assault services, and to reshape our justice system to better serve survivors. When girls are assaulted, they need somewhere safe to turn, and to have some expectation of accountability for what has happened.

For some it might be too late to prevent an experience of sexual assault. But for others, it might change everything

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